I guess it's been an up-and-down few months (when is it not?!). So, the last time I'd posted, we'd gone along to a Donor Conception Network weekend in May for couples thinking about going the egg or sperm donor route; that was after going through our third TFMR in March.
After that, we went to a few London clinics, before deciding that we liked one, and we asked to go on their egg donor waiting list. We went it at number 56! So in an attempt to speed things up, we also enlisted the help of an agency, Altrui. I am delighted to say that they came through for us, having found a lady who is a good physical match for me and amazingly, is willing to go through IVF on our behalf. I do have to say I find it amazing that another person is prepared to go through all the that IVF entails for someone they don't know.
What I do know about her is that she is in her early twenties, married and already has one child. We got her profile and her personal statement said that she really wanted to help people who can't have children; that her heart seemed to be in such the right place really swung it for me. I really want someone who is doing from the heart, rather than because the money (which isn't much) will be handy. If it succeeds and we have a child, and they want to track her down in the future, I really want them to be able to know from her that she did it because she's an amazingly generous person. And I do think she is. Hurrah - thank you to any existing or prospective egg donors reading this, your gift is astonishing! With any luck, we will start a cycle in January. I'll keep you posted.
Wow! I'm so excited to hear this! We just went the egg donor route and I had much of the same thought process as you regarding wanting a donor who did it to help others, and one that is willing to be tracked down later. I am now cautiously expecting (just 5 weeks along) with a donated egg, and we also have 4 frozen embryos from the cycle. I hope your cycle goes well in January! Yes, I agree that these ladies who donate are quite amazing! Especially after going through IVF it is incredible to think someone would go through that for someone else's benefit. They are very special women. Looking forward to good news from you soon!
ReplyDeleteWhat great news! Wishing you all the luck in the world, very best wishes xx
ReplyDeleteThis is so exciting! Wishing you so very much luck!
ReplyDeleteBest wishes to you, and stay positive. I am also going through IVF (#8) right now with donor sperm. We also tried to pick a donor that physically looked like my husband.
ReplyDeleteI am so incredibly hopeful for you. I have no words. I'm very excited for you.
ReplyDeleteWaiting for an update!!!! :)
ReplyDeleteLooking forward for the updates.
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