Frying Pan or Fire

This blog charts our story in trying to have a family. It describes the soul-destroying, mind-bending, insanity-producing experience of being told that your baby has serious abnormalities, and to decide that you believe it to be kinder, for the baby, not to continue with the pregnancy. And to be faced with this situation twice. This is not a blog which is pro-TFMR or anti-CTT (carrying to term). This is purely the story of what has happened to my husband and I and how we came to our decisions.

Thursday 9 August 2012

All four were unbalanced

Just had the confirmation I wanted: all four embryos were unbalanced.

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futureMom9 August 2012 at 21:01
So sorry to hear about these results. At least you got answers about the reason for not being suitable for transfer. Hugs!
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Almamay9 August 2012 at 22:03
I suppose that the news might help a little bit but this must be a really hard time. Sending thoughts.
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BabyBlueSunday10 August 2012 at 13:45
I'm so sorry :(
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Timeline

Feb 2008 - early miscarriage
January 2009 - BFP
March 2009 - abnormalities found at 11wk scan
May 2009 - give birth at 20wks as more abnormalities are found
November 2010 - BFP
January 2011 - 12wk scan is fine!
March 2011 - abnormalities picked up at 20 wk scan - utterly horrified. Our worst nightmare comes true.
May 2011 - give birth at 29 wks as brain abnormality continues to deteriorate
September 2011 - array CGH test shows that both boys had an unbalanced translocation of chromosome 6&9 and that I have a balanced translocation of the same chromosomes
Jul/Aug 2012 - IVF/PGD No1 - no healthy embies
March 2013 - IVF/PGD No2 - BFN
October 2013 - IVF/PGD No3 - no healthy embies
March 2014 - Natural BFP ends in TFMR #3
January 2015 - Unsuccessful egg donation cycle #1
November 2015 - natural BFP ends in TFMR #4

Books I've Read

Beyond Childlessness: For Every Woman Who Ever Wanted to Have a Child and Didn't - Rachel Black and Louise Scull
Shoot the Damn Dog: A Memoir of Depression - Sally Brampton
The Woman who Went to Bed for a Year - Sue Townsend
Lean In - Sheryl Sandberg
Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby - Deborah L. Davis
'You'll Get Over It': The Rage of Bereavement - Virginia Ironside
Genetics For Dummies - Tara Rodden Robinson
Resilience: Bounce back from whatever life throws at you - Jane Clarke, John Nicholson
Georgiana, Duchess of Devonshire - Amanda Foreman
Fathers Feel Too - Andrew Don
Message From an Unknown Chinese Mother - Xinra
When a Baby Dies - Nancy Kohner
Taking Charge of Your Fertility - Toni Weschler
A Gift of Time: Continuing Your Pregnancy When Your Baby's Life Is Expected to Be Brief - Deborah Davis & Amy Kuebelbeck
Handle With Care - Jodi Picoult
The Wife Who Ran Away - Tess Stimson
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway - Susan Jeffers
How to Be a Woman - Caitlin Moran
Daughters-in-Law - Joanna Trollope

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Thursday 9 August 2012

All four were unbalanced

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