This blog charts our story in trying to have a family. It describes the soul-destroying, mind-bending, insanity-producing experience of being told that your baby has serious abnormalities, and to decide that you believe it to be kinder, for the baby, not to continue with the pregnancy. And to be faced with this situation twice. This is not a blog which is pro-TFMR or anti-CTT (carrying to term). This is purely the story of what has happened to my husband and I and how we came to our decisions.
Haven't taken part in this before, but if anyone is interested, this is a series of teleconferences discussing different aspects surrounding infertility. I hope it helps people:
Just as an update, my husband has a balanced translocation, discovered after 3 failed IVFs. After getting 4 "good" embryos after 4 more IVFs with PGD, I have had 2 separate transfers, one fresh, one frozen. One made it to 9 weeks, and one did not implant at all, just a negative result. So even getting "good" embryos via PGD, it does not necessarily lead to a successful pregnancy. I still have 2 frozen left, but am now wondering if they will ever work. All the time and money spent on IVF/PGD and still nothing to show for it.
I'm sorry you've had such a frustrating time. It turns into a slow and expensive process before you even realise it! What are your doubts about using your frosties? How to cope if it doesn't work? How do you and your DH feel about using a donor? Is that a conversation you've had at all?
I will definitely try at least 1 more FET, but the emotional toll is incredible and I feel like I am in a dark hole with no way out. The doctor had said there was no reason that this last one should not have been successful. Hopes get sky high, then dashed to pieces when they call you with a negative result. It is so hard to go through that over and over going on 4 years. My DH is not opposed to using donor sperm, but wants to hear a medical reason for doing so. If 2 (or 3 if I can stomach it) FETs with "good" embryos fail, why would donor sperm make a difference? Seems like there may be other issues on top of the translocation. And I would probably have to do another round of IVF with donor sperm, which I just do not know if I could handle. But who knows. I guess we will cross that bridge when we come to it. In the meantime, my emotional state is shot, and I have gained at least 10 pounds between the hormones and the lack of workouts during cycles. And I am getting older every day. How do you answer people when they ask, How are you? I am furious with the nurses at the clinic who ask it so cheerfully. How the F--- do you think I am?! You have seen my file!
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Just as an update, my husband has a balanced translocation, discovered after 3 failed IVFs. After getting 4 "good" embryos after 4 more IVFs with PGD, I have had 2 separate transfers, one fresh, one frozen. One made it to 9 weeks, and one did not implant at all, just a negative result. So even getting "good" embryos via PGD, it does not necessarily lead to a successful pregnancy. I still have 2 frozen left, but am now wondering if they will ever work. All the time and money spent on IVF/PGD and still nothing to show for it.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you've had such a frustrating time. It turns into a slow and expensive process before you even realise it! What are your doubts about using your frosties? How to cope if it doesn't work? How do you and your DH feel about using a donor? Is that a conversation you've had at all?
DeleteI will definitely try at least 1 more FET, but the emotional toll is incredible and I feel like I am in a dark hole with no way out. The doctor had said there was no reason that this last one should not have been successful. Hopes get sky high, then dashed to pieces when they call you with a negative result. It is so hard to go through that over and over going on 4 years. My DH is not opposed to using donor sperm, but wants to hear a medical reason for doing so. If 2 (or 3 if I can stomach it) FETs with "good" embryos fail, why would donor sperm make a difference? Seems like there may be other issues on top of the translocation. And I would probably have to do another round of IVF with donor sperm, which I just do not know if I could handle. But who knows. I guess we will cross that bridge when we come to it.
ReplyDeleteIn the meantime, my emotional state is shot, and I have gained at least 10 pounds between the hormones and the lack of workouts during cycles. And I am getting older every day.
How do you answer people when they ask, How are you? I am furious with the nurses at the clinic who ask it so cheerfully. How the F--- do you think I am?! You have seen my file!
infertility for easy Conception. (No more adoption, with Dr Itua your problem will solve and you will have your child with ease.I have been blog Sites for a while now and today i felt like i should share my story because i was a victim too. I had endometriosis for 18 years and i never thought i would ever get a cure due to the terrible symptoms i had and this made it impossible for me to get pregnant even after 12 years of marriage and it was a serious issue. I got to know about Dr. Itua on Blog Site who treated someone and the person shared a story of how she got a cure and let her contact details, i contacted Dr. Itua and he actually confirmed it and i decided to give a try too and use his herbal medicine that was how my burden ended completely. My son will be 2 this december and i am gratetful to God and thankful to his medicine too.Dr Itua Can As Well Cure The Following Desease…Cancer,Hiv,Herpes,Epilepsy, Hepatitis B,Liver Inflammatory,Diabetis,Fribroid,Get Your Ex Back, If you have (A just reach his on (drituaherbalcenter@gmail. com Or Whatsapp Number..+2348149277967)He can also advise you on how to handle some marital's issues.He's a good man.
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